I finally decided ‘He is the one’

I remember in 2011, when my dad mentioned my shaadi for the first time, I was just 21 and it came as a shock. I was waiting to join my first company and start working and earning for the first time, and there is  my dad felt that this was “THE TIME” for me to marry. Thankfully, that discussion never went far enough to even start meeting any guys.

And within 2 months I got my joining and travelled to Mysore. See, I won’t say I never had a crush on anyone, obviously, me being a 21-year-old, meeting new people from all over the country and staying in a huge campus of Infosys, where you have the best sceneries, amazing weather, good theatre inside the campus, places to date and have long walks on those beautiful pathways, I met few interesting people but never connected with anyone to that level.

Just within 6 months on that campus I went ahead and took an opportunity with IBM and shifted to Bangalore.

I hated the city for a year and later fell in love so hard that I cry every time I think about leaving the place. Even today I live with the hope that one day soon enough I will be back to the city and enjoy the calmness and openness that it brings along. This was the time when I was also thinking of making a switch to my career, from development to design and had no guidance on how to do it.

Long story short, I happened to land in a Design School in Delhi and shifted to North India. Those were the most interesting yet tough years for me. I learnt a lot, not only about design but also about life. Meanwhile, my dad was back with the same discussion after 4 years, but this time he had guys in the line for me to meet. Oops! I started talking to one of them, and by the time I met the third guy I was clear that still people think that girls do not have a say in the decisions taken regarding marriage. Even today, when we talk about modern ideas and way of conduct, where we talk about equality and female rights, every person I met said to me ‘This is how we live and you have to adjust with us in all ways’. I couldn’t imagine myself with a person who never bothered asking me about my likes and dislikes. But again, I wasn’t mentally prepared for shaadi talks even. I just kept going but with every guy I talked to, I was losing all the hopes for my future.

Somehow, after a few meetings, this whole process took a break and I got a breather, and three years passed by with just  one or two guys my mom mentioned about but nothing further. Thank God, there were not many I had to meet to get my hopes all crushed. But, by the time I got mentally ready for shaadi, I had a clear checklist in my mind like every girl. But my checklist was basic, with very few points which were non-negotiable for me.

Girls, if you are also looking for your life partner, it doesn’t matter whether it is a love marriage or an arranged one, you will always have a checklist in your mind, but make sure your checklist is not very long and you have in mind the terms you cannot compromise on, some basic things you stand for. Your points will definitely be different from my points. But have one, it helps.

Coming back to the story, it was Feb 2021, when my parents met a family and liked them a lot, later I had a call with the guy and he was okay, and I was waiting to talk to him to understand but he never talked instead his family members talked and when we met, we just met for 5 minutes and I was asked to answer, I couldn’t say anything obviously but it took me 8 months to finally make my parents understand my point on why I don’t like the guy. I was so frustrated that I finally started the process on my own.

Day one I matched with a person and we talked. It was such an easy conversation that I had to put no pressure but just go with the flow and believe me I never told him this. Just after 2 days of talking to him I stopped checking my profile and was waiting for this guy’s call or message every day. I think when it is supposed to happen it just happens.

Points in my decision making, I liked it when he asked me to pick the city I want to live in after marriage in case things go this way and we decide to marry. I went WOW! 

No one in my life understands what I do professionally and why I do things as a side hustle but just making an effort to understand and saying that if you like it you should keep doing it, is like a fresh breath. I won’t understand what it is but I can try and cheer. Another WOW! 

He asked me, “Let your parents come meet me and give their approval and then I will travel to meet you after that for sure.” Third WOW! 

Before this I never saw anyone doing that. See, I don’t say that only the guy should travel and make efforts to meet, the girls should too, but reciprocation with the right emotions and actions matter, and that’s what happened. When he came to meet me, I had a great time talking, having lunch, dinner and going to the theatre. Our talks include everything from personal likings to professional plans to investments to hobbies to get-aways to each and everything that popped in our minds.

I was still confused and was not sure, the second day when I made him meet my siblings, that was another WOW moment because that was the time I felt, everything is great. Looking at him talking to my siblings gave me the confidence that yes, I am ready. It was so relaxing.

I learnt a lot from my process of all this, and if I share, the most important thing is, I know I am not a princess that needs to be rescued I just need a person who understand that even I have some plans for my life and it is important that I work on that along side because only that can keep me happy. And only when I am happy, will the people around me be happy too.

Vasu Healthcare Kumkumadi Tailam – Review

Vasu Kumkumadi Tailam

From last year, I have developed love for facial oils and that is mainly because of the numerous benefits they have. I use these as suggested for the PM routine for face. The kind of moisture and goodness these serums and creams give, the oils provide that in just a few drops. Just modify the quantity of oil as per the skin type and you are good to go. The Vasu Healthcare Kumkumadi Tailam is one oil that has won me over. Here is my product review.

Ingredients – Vasu Kumkumadi Tailam

This oils is made of natural oils and ingredients. Free from any chemicals and artificial fragrances. Has a pinch of saffron and herbs like Yashtimadhu, Manjistha, Haridra, Kamal that are blend together with milk and sesame seeds. The oil is a yellow golden colour oil with herbal scent and full of nourishment property for the skin. It’s not so heavy on the skin neither too light. Best part it doesn’t make the skin greasy that you end up spoiling your pillow every night. 

My Review On the Vasu Kumkumadi Tailam

If you have a dull to moderately oil skin, this particular oil will do wonders to your skin. It nourishes the skin from day one and helps in getting rid of the dry patches with time. Since it’s an Ayurvedic solution, I recently read someplace about using it as a primer underneath foundation and I got a chance to use it once and I must say that it was amazing. The foundation glides so smoothly through the skin and gives a fine even texture. It’s an oil that takes its time and works properly on the skin from within. Being an Ayurvedic solution, I think that comes with the territory. I started using it in winters and I must say, the overnight application helps me with the dryness and hydration. With the amount they say, you can never go wrong with the product.

This gives my skin a Gold-Like Glow. With all natural ingrdients in the il, the glow is natural and when used regularly overnight, it helps in over coming hyper pigmentation, age spots, wrinkles and blemishes. Try it now and thank me later!

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Product link: https://www.vasustore.com/vasu-facial-beauty-oil-with-kumkumadi-tailam-gives-natural-glow-to-your-face

The different kinds of people you meet on your travel

“One of the best thing about travelling is that you get to find out how many amazing people are out there.”

Travelling is a journey which takes you to new places and make you meet some new amazing people, some similar to us and some so different from us that we sometimes find other side of our personality along with them. Even if you meet these strangers for a very small period of time, you form a different kind of bond with them.

Here is the list of kind of different interesting people I have met on my journey in these years. But before we get into the list, I would really say, book yourself a ticket to a place you always wanted to visit and get out and explore. You might find people you connect with. 

kyunki

Har ek friend zaruri hota hai’

Disclaimer: You might find the content to be little stereotype but it’s not written with the thought of hurting anyone. 

  1. The Culture Nomads

Normal touristy spots are not for these kind of travellers. They like to get deep into the culture of the place they are visiting. So, you might see them roaming around in the places where people live rather than those tourist spots. Interacting with locals and trying to know their culture. Don’t be surprised if you see them dressed as the traditional attire of that place. They have their calendar open with no plans or timings to visit any place but they start wandering in the areas and just start the conversations. 

2. The Newbie

These are the kind who are on their first trips. They look so prepared with all their to-do list and itinerary and timings set for places. You mostly can see 2 kinds in this category. One who is too over excited and can’t wait to explore more and more. The to-do list and timings set for places and the other one’s are those who are dragged to these places by their family or friends. They are very uninterested and can be seen stuck with there smart phones and laptops and engaged in their series or what not. You can feel that they might be happier some other place than the one they are at right now. 

3. The Photographer

Everyone should have one of this kind in their group. The one who can take pictures of every moment and keep it alive forever. Those who travel with there camera batteries all charged and an extra bag for their camera gears. Their pictures says the story as a whole and you find it very touching after the trip. You can sit and talk for hours because the picture are worth thousand words. 

4. The Entrepreneur

This is all the impact of social media lifestyle. They are a new kind of traveller. These are generally the blogger, from their interested fields, maybe fashion, travel, photography, etc. looking for some great and authentic content for their next blog. Either they are there on their own expense or sponsored by the one company or group they are blogging for. Freelance photographers and writers, they all fall in this category.

5. The Hippie

Those funky clothes and hairstyles, the one who can’t care less about the thoughts of others around. they can be spotted with a backpack and their musical instruments. They can create a vibe where they all sit. They meet strangers as they are friends for long, have a great time and move to a new location. This group is so fun to be around with. They let you be you and they help you see altogether a different side of yourself. 

6. The DJs

No travel is complete without a full music playlist. Bring it on and they have a song fit for every mood and every vibe. We all enjoy a person like this in the group or in the hostel we plan to stay at in our solo travels. They set the vibe for the Bonfires and evening get togethers. Middle of no where and you can feel like you are in a different zone with the kind of music collection they carry. That is just amazing.

7. The ‘finding myself’ kind

The one who have seen a lot of solo travel movie and are so inspired by that they have decided to have a journey like that for themselves. In the urge to discover themselves, they are ready to try many new things and experiencing everything possible. This usually means that you can find a partner in crime with these kind of people.

8. The Nomads

Do you see people with those 15kgs of backpacks as if they have packed there livelihood and put that on their backs. Well these are the Nomads. They start there journey with nothing specific on their mind. They might be coming from a beautiful journey and are planning to continue it further. They look so satisfied and fulfilled. They keep hopping from one place to another and have no roots. They are best storytellers as they have experienced so much, everything for them is different from others. 

9. The unsatisfied one’s 

The one’s who are never satisfied. ‘I wish we had more time’ is their common sentence. They believe that they have not visited all the places and yet there is still the scope and this makes them miss the already amazing places that they visited and enjoyed. They get annoying at times for a group of people but they are also our own. We love them no matter what. 

Did I miss any?

Tell me in the comments below.

10 super food for these summers

The unbearable heat and continuous sweat, the summers are here again. And here are some super foods to keep you cool in this weather.

  1. Mangoes

Mangoes are one of the most loved fruits in the summers. This super food is filled with antioxidants, which is amazing for a healthy body. Cold mangoes in summers are one of my favourite. I can’t wait for the first rains, because my mum says only after that will your mangoes be sweet and believe me I like mine sweet. There are so many options and varieties, and I just love all of it.

2. Oranges

Oranges being rich in citric acid, helps in controlling acne. It has got exfoliating properties giving the skin shine and youthful glow. As oranges are rich in Vitamin C, it increases the production of collagen, which controls signs of ageing and giving a firm skin. Enjoy this as juice or if you are eating it, use black salt with it to have amazing taste, you will enjoy it alot.

3. Tomatos

Cold tomatoes keeps me cool and I think you should try it soon. Add tomato in your salad with your lunch and it will cool your body and you will be feel good. Tomatoes contains antioxidants called lycopene which protects the skin from UV rays which causes sunburns. Our body naturally tans itself when exposed to sun rays but sudden exposure to a lot of it causes sunburns.

4. Carrots

A variety of carrot is well noted for its heat tolerance. In summers, many of us face issues with our digestion as food is not well digested because of the heat. Carrots help in digestion and prevents from constipation.

5. Cucumbers

Cucumber is full of water. 95 percent of cucumber is water, and hence it is best for keeping the body hydrated. It is a must have as it detoxifies the body and keeps the skin healthy and beautiful.

6. Sweet Potato

Helps in increasing metabolism and also a great source for iron. Eat it with black salt and you will need nothing else. It is so fulfilling and doesn’t burn in the stomach like the spicy food we all love eating. Enjoy sweet potato like a snack in the evening and it will curb your hunger for junk food.

7. Dark Chocolate

Chocolates are everyone’s favourite and if you don’t like chocolates, Whyyyyy???

It is one of my favourite thing in summers. Good to get relief from inflammation and it helps in reducing sun damage to the skin. Very thing about chocolate is amazing and so I believe, no matter if it’s summers or winters, chocolate is super food for the year.

8. Watermelon

Full of water, it helps in keeping the body hydrated. Sunny days takes a toll on our body and watermelon is the ideal way to ward off the heat stroke. The amount of electrolytes in watermelon is so high that it stimulates perspiration , which naturally cools the body. Spary a little amount of lemon on it and there you go. You can make many recipes with watermelon and even add it in the salad. My parents even enjoy the vegetable made by the outer layer of watermelon. I never imagined it, but it tastes well. Enjoy it guys.

9. Brocolli

Coming from the cabbage family, we can categorise broccoli as an edible green plant. Add this to your diet to reduce allergic reaction and inflammation which is very common in summers and our skin is exposed to continuous sun which damages the skin.

10. Walnuts

Nuts in summers is an amazing choice and results in lovely and healthy choice.

In summers it is cooling factor to our body and also helps in reducing the risk of chronic disease such as heart disease or diabeties.

So am I missing any super food. Tell me in the comments section and let’s add that too.

See you guys next time. XOXO.

Using an Ayurvedic Oil and Shampoo – SESA

SESA – Oil and Shampoo

Hey People,

I am back with a product this time which is Ayurvedic.

Today the product I chose to do a review on is SESA Ayurvedic hair care range.

Products I am reviewing are 2:

*SESA Strong Roots Ayurvedic Hair oil

*SESA Ayurvedic Strong Roots – Hair Strengthening Shampoo + Conditioner. 

I have been using this from my childhood and then as I shifted my cities and places, I got introduced to new brands and I forgot the one that always helped me. I am happy that I am back to this brand after so long and especially at a time when I am having severe hair loss.

Let’s talk about the Brand first.

First and foremost, this Brand, SESA Care is proudly Made in India.

It holds more than 20 years of legacy and are leading Indian manufacturer and exporter of Ayurvedic Hair Care products.

SESA Care combines the ancient ayurvedic 5000 years old knowledge with modern best-in-class manufacturing practice to deliver high-quality organic, herbal, chemical-free products and so this brand is highly rated and has got a lot of positive customer feedback.

SESA care uses the patented ayurvedic ‘Kshir Pak Vidhi’process which enhances the effect that herbs and oils provide.

‘Kshir Pak Vidhi’ is a process in which 26 herbs and 6 nourishing oils are boiled together in milk.

Review:

SESA Strong Roots Ayurvedic Hair oil- 

This oil targets the roots as they quote – “The Route to Stronger Hair Begins with the Stronger Roots” I strongly believe in it.

Due to stress, undernourishment, pollution, hectic lifestyle and many other factors, the problem of hair fall, dandruff, itchy scalp dry and weak/lifeless hair is very common now a days. 

What SESA Strong Roots oil targets:

·     Builds Healthy & Strong Roots  and Removes Dandruff

·     Reduced Hairfall by nourishing the Scalp & Hair

·     Enhanced Hair Growth by repairing damaged hair.

·     Improves Blood Circulation

·     Reduced Stress & Headache

Details of SESA Strong Roots Ayurvedic Hair oil

SESA strong roots oil is certified

SESA Ayurvedic Strong Roots – Hair Strengthening Shampoo + Conditioner.

The Hair cleanser is a blend of shampoo & conditioner, which means you need not apply conditioner after using this on your hair.

It is a 2 in 1 hair cleanser which cleanses the scalp & hair and makes it smooth & silky.

What SESA Strong Roots Shampoo + Conditioner targets:

·     Cleanses & Nourishes hair

·     Prevent Hair fall

·     Curbs Dandruff and Repair Damage

Details of SESA Ayurvedic Strong Roots – Hair Strengthening Shampoo + Conditioner.

GMP & Ayurvedic product certified.

If you want to buy this product, use the below link and you wont regret it:

http://www.nykaa.com/sesa-hair-oil-in-lotion-goodness-of-avocado-almond-olive-oil/p/1112052

I will see you next time. 

XOXO

Game at the Bar

Game at the Bar

It’s not a token of pyaar

It’s just a game to be played at the bar

It’s not a token of miss

Just a sweet little kiss

From all the bottoms up on our first meet

Drinking from those plastic glasses was our need

Crossing our hands into each other for every shot

Do you remember we even lost the count of bottles it seems

Those stairs on the terrace felt like the perfect place for our first kiss

But oh damn, wait, I could barely keep my hands away from your wrist

From the terrace to the balcony and even to the pool side

I just wish to know you more and stand by your side

It’s not a token of love

Just a memory to remember by

It’s not a token of bye Just some wishes for a fresh new sky.

It was always you

It was always you

It’s you who has taken a decision which I was never a part of

It’s you who thought I am not worth of what I desire for

I remember the day when you said you wanted out

I remember me juggling for answers which I had no questions for

I wonder if it was time or if it was fair on me or was it only you

I wonder how you left with no looking back too

For a minute I wondered if it was a dream, I kept pinching myself with no self esteem

How could I ever let you incharge of my life, when I knew people always leave me behind

Published: https://poetsindia.com/author/anujap/page/5/

Endless Life

Endless Life

I want this day to end I want this pain to end I want my nerves to feel me I want you to be out of my system

It’s you who left and it’s me who is left behind Come back or take me.

This day seems incomplete, this sentence seems incomplete, My breath seems incomplete

I tried to hold tight, I tried to stand straight, but this feeling doesn’t go away

I die day by day

I know you don’t want me back, I know you ended it for real. 
But I still stand with the fear what if you were unclear.

My heart beats for you, my life is all about you but now as you are gone, I am left with nothing at all

I want this day to end I want this pain to end I want my nerves to feel me I want you to be out of my system

Published: https://poetsindia.com/author/anujap/

Start your day with Cinnamon water, Lemon, and honey if needed

I started using this a month ago and the difference I see is amazing. I can’t tell you how calm my stomach feels. If you have bloating problem like I used to, this is something I suggest everyday in the morning.

Have a glass of it first thing in the morning and say bye bye to many of your health problems.

How do we make it. Well, it’s simple, what you need is

1 glass warm water

½ Lemon

¾ spoon of cinnamon powder

1 spoon Honey (if needed)

Now, since all the ingredients you need are here, let’s talk about every of it individually, as each of these have got it’s own benefits and mixing them together can do wonders.

Lemon

This is a superfood which helps in minimisation of weight gain. It actually makes you feel fuller for a longer part of the day hence, saving you from munching every now and then. It helps in increasing your metabolism when included consistently in your diet.

Cinnamon:

Helping you with your waistline, this spice regulates blood sugar at the same time help in controlling your craving for some certain foods.

Cinnamon helps in lowering down your bad cholesterol and the unique part about this spice is, it acts like insulin in your body.

Like our first ingredient lemons, it also boost your metabolism helping in weight loss targeting the most stubborn abdominal fat of your body.

As I am working towards a healthy lifestyle and trying to make some better choices. I thought the best way is to note my progress by sharing the things I do.

Hope this helps you in some way.

Till next time. XOXO

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